Winter Invites Reflection

How to Balance Time Alone and Time with Friends

“Taking time out to develop a relationship with our true self is an essential component for women’s spiritual experience.  Getting to know who we are and why we are here requires quality time alone for reflection.”(P. 109)*

On the other hand, women are biologically designed with the instinctual response to turn to friends and family in times of stress.

“Shelley Taylor, in The Tending Instinct, explains that research consistently shows women enlist the help of others in times of stress.” (P. 33).  Thirty scientific studies demonstrated that women’s responses to stress are overwhelmingly more social than men’s. (P. 24)** This biologically driven impulse evolved to ensure our survival.

Questions for Circle Discussion:

As a woman:

  • What is your experience of the value of friendships?
  • What is your experience of the value of being comfortable with yourself and doing things alone?
  • How do you balance the rhythm of time alone and time with friends?

About the Questions for Circle Discussion:

As each woman speaks honestly about her own experience, she connects with a  deeper sense of her own story.  And as each woman listens with an open mind and heart to each other’s experience, she gleans a broader perspective, picking up on ideas she can integrate into her own life.

This is the Wisdom of the Feminine – truth from the wisdom of your personal journey and collective truth from the wisdom of the women gathered.

To get the most from your Circle gathering, read the Circle Guidelines.

*The chapter references for this Wisdom of the Feminine theme are from:  The ABC Path toward True Wisdom: A Woman’s Guide to Trusting What She Knows in Her Heart Is True,  “Cocoon Care”, p.33-36 and “Quality Quietude”, p. 109-113.

**Taylor, Shelley E.  The Tending Instinct: How Nurturing Is Essential to Who We Are and How We Live, “A Little Help from Friends and Strangers”, p. 24

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©2018 Teresa Lampmann

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