What Masks Hide Your True Self?

Masking Your True Self

“Creating an illusion of beauty is an art form that women
have been taught is necessary before leaving home to face the
day. Unfortunately, it implies that without makeup, coiffed hair, manicures, and undergarments that lift up, flatten, squeeze, or pad, women would be ugly. We learn to hide our true selves and believe that the illusion we create is better
The ABC Path toward True Wisdom, p 47.

Learning to trust what you know in your heart is true and living your truth as a woman takes courage. The feminine way has been suppressed under masculine leadership for centuries. Men’s perspective was valued as the right way, the only way, of doing anything that mattered. Feminine values and women’s perspectives held no power.

For women to live “happily ever after” we had to comply with the male definition of who women are. After centuries of living like this, we came to believe their perspective was true. We became so good at “masking” our own truth that we began to believe the feminine way was invalid and women’s perspective only mattered when it mirrored the masculine.

Times Are Changing

We are living in a time of feminine awakening. Women are finding their voices and uniting as a feminine force to create change that supports feminine values. As individuals, women are listening to their heart and following where that path leads. They are trusting what they know in their heart is true, removing their masks, and living their best life as their authentic selves.

When I turned 50 I entered my first year of training in spiritual direction. I was feeling the inner call to wake up, to listen to deeper levels of knowing. It was through this training that I learned to trust my innate, intuitive wisdom is valid, that it is a divine connection. But this meant change. As stated in my poem below, I was no longer satisfied with maintaining an outer illusion of who I was to fit men’s definition of who I should be.

Working Nine to Five

Am I to sacrifice my dreams so I can pay the bills?
If so my body feels the strain and counteracts with ills.
Though weary of the drama, I have no where else to go.
I show up every morning and continue with the show.

An actor, I have learned my role and donned my costumes well.
I play my part from day to day and no one else can tell,
That when the night brings sleep to me and I’m without my masks,
My dreams display my soul’s desire and I know what it asks.

To trust my heart, emancipate, and let my soul be free,
Look deep within my Self to find who I was meant to be.
But I have not the grace nor strength to act on what I know,
So I show up each morning and continue with the show.

How sad my God must be to see me waste away each day,
When I was meant to bring to life a new and better way.
But my creative talents lie beneath the masks I wear,
So I show up each morning but the passion isn’t there.

And acting out this role I play leaves lots to be desired.
My heart and soul grow weary as I leave each day so tired.
With so much time invested in continuing the play,
There’s not enough remaining time to find a truer way.

My soul is filled with sadness and I don’t know what to do,
For my creative talents seek expression pure and true.
I’m ready and I’m willing but I don’t know where to go,
So I show up each morning and continue with the show.

© 1997 Teresa Lampmann

In 2000 I was given the answer to that lament. I knew where to go, what to do, and how to do it. And I held true to implementing the creative, inclusive, intuitive, tending and befriending feminine way for the next 14 years until I retired!

Questions for Circle Discussion:

  1. When did you feel the call to awaken to your true self?
  2. What masks did you wear to fit in a masculine dominated world?
  3. What masks hide your true self today?

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*The chapter reference for this theme of courageous being you is from  The ABC Path toward True Wisdom: A Woman’s Guide to Trusting What She Knows in Her Heart Is True, Facing Fear, p. 47-50.

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©2020 Teresa Lampmann

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