How Do You Help Those You Love When They Are Suffering?

Unprecedented Levels of Tragedy

This topic is to invite a conversation about how we respond and support those we love and care deeply about, when they are suffering the pain and shock of a tragedy or trauma.

This is an unprecedented time of grief and pain. Not only are we experiencing this on a global level with the pandemic and natural disasters, but we also have the grief and pain that is part of life’s personal challenges.

Add to that the status of the Baby Boomers, the largest demographic in our nation, entering their mid-seventies and experiencing the physical changes and limitations consistent with the autumn of life.

This means most likely we all know people we care about who are personally dealing with grief or pain.

What Is Helpful and What Isn’t?

There comes a time in our life when we awaken to the power of grief to reveal a deeper purpose to our pain. I talk more about that in the chapter, “Gutsy Grieving” in my book, The ABC Path toward True Wisdom. But that insight comes later, after we have had time to heal.*

In this Circle discussion we are seeking the wisdom of women’s experience about what kinds of support works and what doesn’t when the people we care about are hurting.

My hope is that as we listen to each other, we feel uplifted by what we hear, affirmed that what we each do helps, and confident that what we are each doing is enough.

Questions for Circle Discussion

  1. What have you experienced as helpful from those who care about you when you were in pain or grieving? In other words, what helped and what didn’t? Or what help would you have liked?
  2. How have you responded to those you care about when they were in pain or grieving? What advice would you offer based on your experience?

To get the most from your Circle gathering, read the Circle Guidelines.

*Lampmann, Teresa.  The ABC Path toward True Wisdom: A Woman’s Guide to Trusting What She Knows in Her Heart Is True, Balboa Press, 2017. “Gutsy Grieving”, p. 51-55.

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©2020 Teresa Lampmann

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